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Five Strange Cakes

These days, wedding cakes range from elegant and traditional to far, far out there! Here are the top 5 (as determined by us!)MOST unique wedding cakes we could find on the internet. Yum? Maybe…

Number 5: People joke about wives and husbands arguing all of the time… but depicting his death on the wedding cake? That may be taking it too far!

Number 4: Hello Kitty fans are everywhere. Most have some Hello Kitty pajamas, a few pencils, and maybe a Hello Kitty bumper sticker on their car. This fan has an entire Hello Kitty wedding cake.

Number 3: We really hope they remembered to pack Super Mario in their honeymoon suitcase!

Number 2: This would have been the number one strangest cake… but since we were not quite sure what it was, we decided to place it second.

Number 1:  And the strangest, most unique wedding cake we could find is… Hamburger cake! I wonder what they served at the reception…



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Jack and Jill Showers

Traditionally, the bridal shower was meant as a celebration for the lady, but many modern couples have embraced the idea of the Jack and Jill Shower- a wedding shower that involves the bride and the groom.  This is a great way to honor these two special people as a couple and gives guests an opportunity to give gifts that both the bride and groom can use.

Think couple’s gifts are hard to find? Think again… grills, kitchen items, furniture, law care equipment, and even home improvement gift cards are all fair game. If you are planning the shower, you can even suggest that single men bring gifts more suited to the the groom, while single women bring gifts more suited to the bride. Couples can bring gifts that the bride and groom can use together.

A Jack and Jill Shower gives the bride and groom an opportunity to celebrate with all of their friends and family, regardless of gender. It also gives the men the opportunity to do some party planning for once! For those seeking a more modern way to celebrate their love, including the groom in the shower is worth considering.




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The Champagne Toast

One of the decisions you must make when planning your wedding reception is whether to include a champagne toast. Most couples choose to include a champagne toast for the bride and groom… but who else should be included? It is always thoughtful to serve champagne to all guests, but if you budget does not allow for it, you do not have to feel obligated.

The Bride and Groom are Special. They are, in fact, the reason why everyone has gathered for a reception in the first place. Guests will understand if they are excluded from the champagne toast, as long as they are otherwise included in the festivities.

Consider including the head table. Since these people are near and dear to your heart and have probably put a lot of effort into helping you plan the event, you should consider honoring them by providing a champagne toast, even if you exclude other guests. Also, consider including the parents’ table if you have one.

Consider whether or not your guests even enjoy champagne. If you provide it, they may toast with it and only drink it because they feel obligated. They may not even drink it at all. Do you really want to pay for something your guests do not even enjoy? Talk with your fiance about your guests’ tastes and try to decide whether or not they are collectively a champagne-drinking crowd. If the answer is yes, including them in the champagne toast is a lovely gesture. If the answer is no, save your money to spend elsewhere (custom appetizers, an extra entree choice, and signature drinks are touches that everyone can enjoy!)

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The Dreaded Speech

My roommate and dear friend is soon to be a maid of honor in her cousin’s wedding. Over the last few months, she has picked out dresses, had her nails done for the first time, and tasted yummy wedding cakes. One duty that she has not been so thrilled about is writing her speech. Between working at the Castle and attending countless friends’ weddings this summer, I have heard a lot of toasts and speeches and the overarching theme seems to be: speakers have great things to say, but get nervous. While a less-responsible Tonawanda Castle wedding blogger may tell you to have a few drinks to calm your nerves, this one happens to be studying public health and would like to offer some alternative ways to ensure you stay calm and deliver a speech that the guests deserve to hear.

Take a moment before your speech to envision yourself delivering it perfectly, then believe in yourself to do it just as you have imagined. This is a psychological technique called mind-mapping, and helps paint the experience in a positive light and increase your self-confidence.

Take a deep breath between sentences. This helps keep you relaxed and also keeps you from sounding rushed.

 Reading a speech can be tacky, but if you are a very nervous speaker it may be the best way to ensure you say the right things. A good compromise is writing a list of key point on a card in the order that you want to present them in your speech. This way, you are not reading directly from a paper, but you do have something to fall back on if you stumble.

Overall, remember not to over-think the situation. Just act as if you are speaking honestly to a group of good friends and have fun with it. The best speeches are honest ones given with true feeling.

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Wedding Planning for Students

These days, people are staying in school for longer than ever. I myself am in a graduate program that I don’t anticipate finishing until I am about 28. Many of my friends are in the same boat. So, what are you to do when your honey proposes and you say yes… and then realize that the work involved in planning a wedding is tough to fit around thesis writing and exams? I have not been in this situation myself, but I do have a few friends who are both in school and engaged. Here are the tips they had to offer for those in the same boat:

“Definitely assign everyone in your party a job so you have less to worry about. This was tough for me because I like making all of the decisions, but in the end you have to trust that they are going to make good choices if you want everything to get done.”

“I treated wedding planning like another class in my schedule. I set aside an hour two times per week to do whatever was on my list to get done. I made sure I worked efficiently during that hour and did not dwell on decisions longer than needed. I had this crazy list and each week I tried to check off three items “

When we first got engaged, we wanted to get married 9 months later, but decided to push the wedding back another 6 months just so I had longer to plan. Then I mapped out what I had to do each month in order to have things done by the deadline. He had to help out a lot more than most grooms do because I just could not do it on my own. I think that set a good precedent, actually!”

So there you have it! Three solid pieces of advice for planning while in school. It all seems to boil down to giving yourself enough time and staying on task without unnecessary dawdling. Wedding planning while in school is possible after all… and that’s good news for all of us schoolies.








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The Emergency Basket

Anyone who has attended a wedding reception is aware of all the little things that can go wrong when you’re dressed in your finest to enjoy a nice meal, a few drinks and some dancing. Maybe you spilled wine down your light pink dress or suddenly found your contacts becoming unbearably dry. In circumstances like these, a basket full of “emergency” supplies can be a lifesaver. Engaged couples, take note! The emergency bathroom emergency basket is a small touch that your guests are sure to appreciate in a big way Line a basket with fabric that coordinates with your wedding colors and add some or all of these important items:

1. First Aid Supplies
Pain Relievers (Advil or Tylenol), Bandaids, Neosporin, Gas-X, Tums
2. Grooming Products
Hair spray, bobby pins, lotion, mouthwash, body spray, feminine products, clear nail polish (for those runs and tears), cotton balls, eye drops, saline solution
3. Quick Fixes
Nail clippers or nail file, stain remover pen (Tide), mints, lint roller, safety pins, extra earring backs

This basket is usually placed inside the main restroom at the reception. Some items (earring backs, feminine products, bobby pins) can be safely left out of the men’s room version. As the night wears on and spills, dry contacts, torn fingernails and missing earring backs become common, your guests will be very thankful.

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Fall-Themed Wedding Favors

Relax, it is not quite fall yet… there is still at least another month of warm, sunny weather ahead. Still, it is crunch time for those planning fall weddings! Favors are one of those often-forgotten but oh-so-important little touches that couples often forget to plan for. Here is a look at a few cute favor ideas for those upcoming fall weddings.

Tiny jars of maple syrup make a cute addition to your tables and are something that your guests can actually take home and savor. offers these for about $3.00 a piece.




These fall leaf coasters are also available at Consider giving each guest a set of two. Again, these are a great favor because your guests can actually use them.




As fall approaches, it gets harder and harder to roll out of bed in the morning. Help get your guests moving with a tasty coffee favor from

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